Exploring Dungeons in Your BDSM Quest.
Dungeons
Imagine arriving at a building that, on the outside, appears to be utterly abandoned.As you approach, the doors part as if anticipating your arrival, revealing a plush room painted a rich maroon on the inside. You follow a leather-clad woman down a long hall, reach a set of stairs, and descend while clutching the guiding bar. Down, down, down you go until you reach a door. And when it opens, the most magical scene greets your eyes that feels awesome, powerful, and intimidating at the same time.
It’s a dungeon.
A set of couches is set off in one corner, separated by a curtain or perhaps a wall. There are plenty of refreshments including water as well as some snacks scattered over the table. The rest of the room is clad in black with an assortment of equipment occupying most of the room. On one wall is a magnificent cross with straps and D-rings upon which one could strap a willing sub and pummel them senseless. In a corner is a doctor’s chair complete with straps, stirrups, and platforms where a residing Doctor Dom could inspect their patients. And just to the side, almost out of sight, is a grand cage that glistens in the dim light.
As you walk through this bondage wonderland, you feel the tension grow in your chest. Your palms sweat and your thighs twitch with anticipation. It’s a glorious place…but what would you even do here?
All these delightful imagined pleasures could be yours should you choose to seek them. and meet otherl ike-minded friends who may later become playmates. They are safe spaces,completely discreet, and provide you the opportunity to fill all of your wildest fetish desires. Not all kinky dungeons are alike and finding them can be a bit tricky, so we’ve got some tips for you to locate your very own BDSM Wonderland.
But first, what do dungeons add to the experience of kinky play?
Many people find it endearing to be watched, and what better place to be watched then in the presence of other interested kinksters? Dungeons provide a safe place where kinky couples and groups can create scenes and put on something like a performance for others. How alluring it is to be in the throes of impact play passion and look over to find a small crowd has formed. Some people have their thumbs up in approval and others are clapping, encouraging you to take just a few more spanks.
It can also be arousing to have crowd participation. Your Dom might invite the people surrounding you to come over and smack your bottom, thighs, or any other approved place. This can be arousing for those in the dungeon as well as for you and your Dom. Just picture how helpless you would feel while strapped down to a chair as strangers come up to grab a portion of your bottom. It can certainly increase that kink factor by multiples.
With crowd participation comes other opportunities for people to join in on the fun.Although a couple might have originally started with a Doctor/nurse scenario,the Dom may entice other men to come into the scene and “violate” the nurse (in ways that have been agreed, of course.) There could be tools that can be used on the unsuspecting nurse, toys, clamps for pinching skin, and a medley of assorted items that can be pain-inflicting or pleasure-inducing.
This brings to mind one of the amazing opportunities that could potentially erupt in such scenarios: an orgy. Some kinksters find it intoxicating to interact with complete strangers who they may or may not see after that session is over. This can include participating in group sex where it’s blissfully difficult to tell where one person begins and another person ends. The group can create a train of pleasure that circles around the room or choose the not-so-organized dogpile of flesh that could produce some wonderfully cosmic results.
Hooking up in the dungeon is a way to explore sexual fetishes in an environment that caters to it. A couple may arrive together and part ways for the night, playing their way back to each other in the middle. Alternately, someone may go with a group of kinky friends or go alone to experience their own blissful and spiritual dungeon experience.Whatever someone consents to, they are sure to find a treasure trove of delights that they might not have found at home.
Another perk of playing in a dungeon is being able to control your environment. How often have we found ourselves in situations or events that have gone far out of our reach? In a dungeon, we can choose who we play with and when we play with them. It gives us the ability to create boundaries, enact those boundaries, and expand if we see fit. We can securely navigate through new scenes or choose to watch instead. Everybody gets to choose how they interact with the dungeons long as it is consensual.
Since dungeons have become an essential part of the kink community, it’s customary for many of them to hold events. An old dungeon haunt on the east coast of theUnited States used to host a sort of kinky Olympics yearly with a multitude of sexy games including sliding over an oiled bar, wrestling, and endurance play for prizes. What an enticing way to spend an entire day with your kinky family!
Now that you know what you can find in a dungeon, where would you even begin to locate one? Dungeons, in order to provide discreet play and anonymity as well as privacy, tend to keep their locations within their kinky circles. Most often, you would have to contact someone in your local kink community and get to know a few people before asking them where you can stalk some delectable subby creatures.
Oneway to meet local kinksters is by using the website FetLife.com. It’s a sort of kinky Facebook for those of us who enjoy the darker and richer side of sexual fantasies that may involve pain, pleasure, or a mixture of both. On this website, you can search for kinksters in your area and strike up a conversation. There are also a collection of groups you can join that meet monthly. These monthly meetings are called munches. We would highly recommend getting involved in the local munches so that you can find your very own dungeon in which to play. Another excellent fetish site with a global audience is fetishwombat.com
Some dungeons have their own pages on FetLife. It would be beneficial to add the dungeon as a friend and get to know the layout. Check their times of operation and what they might require pay-wise for entry. Many dungeons have memberships that can be purchased every year, although there might also be a nightly fee for those who just want to keep their attendance to a few weekends here and there.
Make sure to become familiar with the dungeon’s rules. Some places have dress codes while others are more relaxed. Whatever the case, it’s best to make a good first impression. You wouldn’t want to be thrown out on account of your outfit or manners. A basic rule of thumb would be to enter the space with the intention of respecting people and their play scenes. Though the above stated interactions can be appealing (like group sex, group play, or stranger hook-ups,) there are those who do not want to be interrupted. You wouldn’t want to get sucker punched by a Domme trying to please Her subling and then get banned—that would just not be a great experience for anyone.
An important tip is to have a safe word in mind that you are ready to communicate and use when things become overwhelming. It would not only be for your safety, but also for those around you. People appreciate the communication of your boundaries and, as we have mentioned, the dungeon can be a place to enforce those rules. Consent is a huge part of playing with kinksters. If someone crosses the line with you, make it known! They will appreciate your forwardness.
Consent is also important for you to respect. Don’t touch or taste without asking first. If a couple or group looks like they’re occupied in their own moment, try not to intervene. Maybe wait until they’re taking a break to ask if you can join. It’s always received well to be polite and considerate. Every dungeon will likely have rules about consent posted, but it’s pertinent to keep these things in mind when attending any dungeon.
Everyone tends to get overwhelmed with their initial visit. It’s okay if you feel slightly intimidated or far too aroused to handle the moment—that’s what the break room is for. Make sure to communicate to those you’ve attended with that you’re feeling overstimulated or overwhelmed. A little water and a snack can go a long way to help bring you back to center. And remember, this is about having fun, so don’t be afraid to take frequent breaks from playing. There’s so much to learn and explore—even experienced kinksters can become starry-eyed with the gold that lies before them!
After you’ve finally encountered a truly subliminal dungeon, you might think to yourself, How can I recreate this experience at home?
Many kinksters who love dungeon play tend to . While this seems like a huge project to undertake—news flash: it totally is—it can also be a rewarding investment. Often, a bedroom in your house can be converted into its very own miniature dungeon. You can decorate the walls with sound-proof lining (or, you know, not because being heard can be it’s very own fetish) and pile all your toys into a treasure chest. Many people convert typical house furniture into their very own torture tables, whether it’s installing D-rings to hold straps or attaching straps directly to the furniture.
Could you go bigger?
Well, you can always go bigger.
Some kinksters take it up a notch and turn entire garages into dungeons. They might take it further than that and convert their basement, their tool shed, or even go as far as to order a new attachment to the house just to have as large and as bold a dungeon as possible. What kind of perks does this offer to any kinkster in the mood for play? The possibilities are endless—you can entertain any play partner at any moment when the mood strikes, you can have a kinky birthday party, you can entertain guests who want to watch, or you can even host your very own events.
Whatever comes to your deviant mind can be applied here. It just takes a little imagination and a lot of willingness to get the job done. It’s the same willingness and dedication it would take to get a sub to call out their safe word during a heavy lashing. All of these delightful dungeon dreams can be yours, if you wish to invest in that sort of living.
Many kinksters who enjoy 24/7 play could be interested in your personal dungeon. If you install a cage—which, we should note, is pretty much in every dungeon, so you pretty much have to have a cage—you can host your pet/slave/sub with all their basic needs like food, water, and a bed to sleep. Anything can happen while they’re under your watch, including absolutely nothing. When are you going to visit them? Will they be awakened by your belt or your toy? How can they sleep knowing they could be penetrated at any point?
It’s all part of the fun!
This sort of play could include having guests come over to “visit” your pet, play with them, and discard them like the piece of trash that they are. All the same things that could happen in a typical dungeon could happen in your dungeon as long as it’s all consensual. Granted, 24/7 play is rather extreme play. It involves complete attention and dedication on the parts of both Top and bottom as well as an extensive contract that outlines every single unshakeable detail. We would only recommend this sort of play for people who have already experienced a D/s relationship and want to take it to the next level.
Now that you’re aware of all the treasures awaiting you in a dungeon, what are you waiting for? An invitation? Prepare your mind and body for the greatest experience of your life! We will be adding some kinky dungeon info to our BDSM resources page.
Happy hunting 😉
